Last Sunday our webinar focused on the three factors that influence the Law of Least Effort.. The fact that it takes less effort to succeed than to fail. So we focused on:
1) Acceptance- so let’s practice accepting things as they are- people, situations, circumstances, and events… whatever it is, it JUST IS… let’s not ponder why or making it different, as Jim Rohn would say….. “don’t sign up for that class!” Just accept what is. I remember one of the first classes I took in college, English Comp, I had a professor that was so black and white when it came to ACCEPTANCE. Just believe it….. He handed back essays that we had written, and a young kid behind me, was like, “I can’t believe I got an F”!!! And the professor stated in a matter of fact tone of voice, “Why can’t you believe it? There it is in front of you in black and white!, What’s not to believe?” YEARS and YEARS later, and I still recall his statement and chuckle, because yep, it is what is… ACCEPT IT AS IS!
2) Responsibility- take responsibility for my situations and events that are my problems. Taking the whole “cause and effect” into consideration, we are the effects of causation, so it falls to us to accept responsibility. MAN UP! We cannot point fingers or blame others or anything for our situations. Sure, if we get hit by a tornado, that’s not our responsibility per se, but let’s get real about our circumstances. We are talking about our everyday actions and decisions….. we made them, we can’t blame others. It’s really amazing when we take the time to really analyze our situations in life, that we thought, just “happened to us”, that are really our responsibility. Pointing fingers and blaming others doesn’t solve anything because it doesn’t get to the root of the problem. You know the old saying, “when you point at someone else, you have 4 fingers pointing back at you”.
3) Defenselessness- Just as we cannot blame others for our actions, situations, and decisions, we don’t have to “Defend” those positions either. Whatever decisions, situations or actions we take, they BELONG to us…. we have no responsibility to defend those to anyone else but to ourselves. If we are following our true north, then it matters not what others think, because we have to be true to ourselves. How ABSOLUTELY freeing and liberating this can be!!!! Why do we have to feel compelled to explain, or convince others of our actions? Does it truly matter what they think, or if we convince them that this is what is best for US? Who is driving this bus called OUR LIFE anyway? It is US in the drivers seat, everyone else is just a passenger, so it really matters not if they think we are taking the right road. I think that sometimes we get tired of being the driver…. so we want to hand over the steering wheel. Then, yeah, if you want to let others drive, you might have to defend your position. So, keep driving, and don’t hand over the wheel.
This week’s webinar really brought home to me some concepts that I “knew”, but didn’t KNOW!!!!! Now I KNOW the difference!